FAQ Regarding Personal/Playing Styles
1. Q: How does knowledge of my style help me?
A: Living and working according to the parameters that define your natural style creates a physical and emotional environment for one's daily activity that produces optimal cooperation between your "mission," the resources Mother Nature gave you and the motions (both learned and instinctive activities and actions) required to get you where you want to go. The result, when you know and honor your given style, is that you use less energy, you put less stress on your system, you get it done in a shorter time frame, with much greater ease toward reaching your objectives.
Conversely, if one attempts to regularly function outside his/her style, he/she becomes vulnerable to unnecessary ambiguity and stress. Under the normal pressures that accompany daily living, not to mention anything unusual, Mother Nature insists that the style "she" provided at birth will come into full play. Now all attempts we have made that were inconsistent with our personal styles must go through entirely different "screens." What follows is apt either to be lost entirely or at least somewhat confusing.
2. Q: Why haven't we heard more about this before now?
A: There is no short answer, but most of the evidence points in one direction - most teachers, instructors, and journalists have accepted an incomplete, over-simplified conclusion - that one's style is a matter of personal choice, and therefore doesn't matter so much. There is much more evidence to support the opposite, that your style is NOT an elective, but is "factory installed." Behavior Style is predetermined, as part of our basic structure, by Mother Nature. It came with our birth. It has genetic roots and is therefore not only important, but inescapable. Failing to understand and honor the principal characteristics in your natural style can, and will, "eat your lunch" at the most inopportune times, as in "under pressure" anywhere and anytime.
3. Q: Does that mean I have no choices in life?
A: No. We can, if we have reasonable understanding and appreciation of our styles, utilize temporary departures from our own styles for interpersonal tasks, such as communication with others. For tasks that come under a "solitary" heading, such as creative writing, planning, managing, and things like golf, bowling, shooting foul shots, pitching in baseball, skeet, billiards, writing, reading, studying, we will get maximum results through our own styles, not an altered version.
4. Q: Is "Style" what is people are referring to when they use the cliche "stay within yourself?"
A: Yes. Style is the single most critical measure. Most people, however, seem to think "within yourself" refers to something about the assertiveness of life and not "over-doing it, or within some vague set of parameters having to do with your emotions. Style is found to be the basic dimension. Everything else pertaining to how we think, feel, act and strive is either secondary or peripheral.
5. Q: Isn't "style" the same as "personality," and just a matter of semantics?
A: No, it isn't. Style is a reference to those traits that came with you when you were born, along with the maturing (as opposed to changing one's approach to others and the world) you may have added on your journey. Personality is learned after you get here and may be altered (may accompany any maturity but without necessarily being related to it) along the way, depending upon what you believed you needed to demonstrate in order to get along with other people. You might try to alter your style, and you might even succeed, but it will likely send you on many an adventurous trip to a variety of doctors and/or hospitals, either medical/surgical or psychiatric. And it will surely take a bite out of many of the rewards and satisfactions of your activities without either your permission or your awareness (until after the fact).
6. Q: Does anyone have only one set of style traits or are we a combination of more than one?
A: Everyone has something of each of the four trait groups. Those, however, are subject to things like intensity and which side of a mid-point the traits fall on. It can be understood this way. Each style embraces a number of traits, and no one has all of them. The traits that go with the "Driver" deal with how we relate to our environment - that will be either in the sense of trying to dominate it or submit to it. With the "Persuader," it's how we tend to deal with people - either we will move toward them or move away from them. The "Craftsman" deals primarily with the tasks in life - on the one hand, it may be with a slow, rhythmic careful quality, or it may be in a big hurry to reach a conclusion. "Analyzers" immerse themselves in how the "rules of the game" are dealt with - either following them to the letter and insuring perfect quality, or doing things their own way to the exclusion of all others. The organization of those traits, in our experience, has not been found alike in any two people. All of us are different.
Loosely translated, Drivers try to "run the show." Persuaders Take care of social life and promotional issues. Craftsmen get the work done, and Analyzers handle the quality assurance of everything.
7. Q: Where can I find out more about this?
A: Widely scattered, especially among those who provide services. Unfortunately, one will need to search inorder to find the expertise than can be most helpful. There are too many who are familiar with the basic information, but who have lost track of how to utilize it, if they ever knew. Interestingly, some of the more competent can be found among a select group of golf instructors, whom we happen to know well. You may also improve your information base by acquiring a copy of our book, "The Double Connexion," which centers in golf, but has the "Double" reach to all the rest of life, hence its name. It provides more detail on the matter of Personal style, and incorporates learning and playing the game. The book is also available as a download on the internet and you may contact us for a CD version or for more information. You can, of course, research the matter, as we have done, and form your own conclusions if you would prefer not to trust our studies. If that is your choice, we'll be glad to provide you with a list of resources to get you started on your study pilgrimage. Just send us an Email.
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